How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life
From the official publisher (Knopf Doubleday): Based on the wildly popular Stanford course that started the life design movement, this #1 New York Times bestseller shows us how design thinking can help us create a life that is both meaningful and fulfilling, regardless of who or where we are, what we do or have done for a living, or how young or old we are.
Author:
Bill Burnett
Published Year:
2016-09-20
First, let's look at the concept of "dysfunctional beliefs."
First, let's look at the concept of "dysfunctional beliefs." These are the ingrained ideas we have about work and life that often hold us back.
The book "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life" challenges the common belief that we should know where we are going early in our careers. It points out that only 27% of college graduates have jobs closely related to their major, suggesting it's unnecessary to have it all figured out.
Another dysfunctional belief is the pursuit of the "perfect" job. "Designing Your Life" encourages focusing on building a life that is "good enough" and continually evolving, similar to how a product is developed through iterations.
To challenge these beliefs, the book suggests writing down three beliefs about work or career and questioning if they are helpful or hindering. Reframing them, such as changing "I need to find my passion" to "I can explore different interests and find what engages me," can be beneficial. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
Now, let's talk about "wayfinding."
Now, let's talk about "wayfinding." This is the ancient art of figuring out where you are going when you don’t actually know your destination.
"Designing Your Life" emphasizes that life design is more like wayfinding than following a pre-set plan. It involves paying attention to your internal compass, values, and interests.
Wayfinding encourages openness to unexpected opportunities. It's about not being fixated on a specific outcome and missing possibilities along the way.
The book suggests keeping a "Good Time Journal" to track activities that energize you and put you in a state of "flow." These are clues to what you should be doing more of. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
Next, let’s build our compass.
Next, let’s build our compass. This isn't a physical compass, but a metaphorical one, consisting of your Workview and your Lifeview.
Your Workview is your philosophy of work – what it's for, what it means, why you do it. Your Lifeview is your idea of what gives life meaning.
"Designing Your Life" guides you through exercises to articulate these views by asking questions like, "Why work?" and "What is the meaning of life?" Even partial answers can provide clarity.
The goal is to align your Workview and Lifeview so they support each other, creating a sense of purpose and direction. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
Let's move on to "prototyping."
Let's move on to "prototyping." In design thinking, prototyping isn't about building a finished product. It's about creating quick, rough versions to test ideas and gather feedback.
"Designing Your Life" encourages applying prototyping to life design by creating small experiments to explore different possibilities, instead of making grand plans.
Two main types of prototypes are prototype conversations (informational interviews) and prototype experiences (trying out a potential path, like volunteering or taking a short course).
Prototyping helps you avoid making big commitments based on assumptions. There's no failure in life design, only feedback. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
The authors also emphasize the importance of brainstorming, or "ideation," in the life design process.
The authors also emphasize the importance of brainstorming, or "ideation," in the life design process.
They offer "mind mapping" to generate a wide range of possibilities. Start with a central question, branch out with related ideas, and then look for connections. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
It is crucial to defer judgment on the ideas generated during brainstorming.
The steps are: pick a topic, make the mind map, and make secondary connections and create concepts. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
Finally, let's talk about the collaborative nature of life design.
Finally, let's talk about the collaborative nature of life design. The authors stress that you don't have to do this alone.
"Designing Your Life" recommends building a "life design team" – a group of people who support you, offer different perspectives, and hold you accountable.
This team could include friends, family, mentors, or people you meet through prototype conversations. The key is to find people who are genuinely interested in your well-being.
A team can help you see things you might miss, challenge your assumptions, and offer new ideas. "Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life"
You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.
The best way to predict the future is to create it.
Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.
The only way to do great work is to love what you do.
Dysfunctional beliefs keep us stuck.
Life design is a journey; let curiosity and experimentation be your guides.
There are many lives within me; I must explore them all.
Embrace the messiness of life; it's where the magic happens.
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